Sneaking Back In…

to say that I am fucking pissed!

My son goes to a small school. There are 22 students in all of 6th, 7th and 8th grade. He has three teachers and has classes with different grades. It’s a pretty close knit school.

His basketball coach has kind of taken him under his wing and for the most part I agree with everything coach says and does with him. When Dylan started at this school I was asked to sign a paper stating whether or not Dylan could have swats if needed. Well, I have known the principal for years and I have known Coach almost as long. I trust their judgement so I said yes he could if needed but I wanted to be notified BEFORE it happens.

Last week I found out Dylan has had swats THREE times that I didn’t know about. Since he came home and told me about it and asked me not to say anything I didn’t. But, this morning that man tried to way overstep his boundaries and I am livid!

We are about to be in the throws of an ice storm. It is supposed to hit us around lunch. It’s already cold and rainy and a little slick but not too bad. I made the decision that Bradley and Dj would both cancel their doctors appointments and Dylan would not be going to school. I would rather them stay home and it not storm then have them be out and it does happen.

Dylan called in to tell Coach he wouldn’t be there today. His words to Dylan were “Get ready, I’m sending someone to get you. If your mom doesn’t want to bring you then we’ll get you here another way.”

Dylan called me to tell me about it and I about lost my shit! How dare he try and make those decisions for MY child. I had Dylan call him back and tell him that I said no and if he has a problem with it then he can call and take it up with me. Dylan called and Coach apparently still romped on him a bit.

I see a parent/teacher conference in my near future!

Published in: on January 27, 2009 at 2:49 pm  Comments (4)  


I am going to take a short hiatus from my blog. Probably just a week or so because I can’t ever stay gone for very long.

I have some things in my personal life that need to be worked out and I have too much swimming around in my head to focus on much.

I know I have hounded a few of you when I don’t hear from you so I wanted to at least let you know that I’m around and I will be ok.

Dj and the baby are ok… bed rest is killing her but they are ok.

Published in: on January 21, 2009 at 2:26 pm  Comments (4)  

How I’ve Spent My Week

This has been a very sucktastic week!

We had Dj’s baby shower on Saturday and it went pretty good. She made a good haul in the diaper and wipe department. She has two friends that live in Louisiana. They snuck in for the day to surprise her for her shower. After the shower she went with them to the camp where they all met to visit the people that run the camp. There they ate some Cajun food. I think that was the culprit of the events that started to unfold the next day.

Sunday morning started out nice and calm. It was Dj, Bradley, Dj’s friend Sarah and I sitting there watching tv. Dj sent me a text asking me if hurting around her lower stomach and nether regions was normal. I started asking questions and her pains were coming and going and varied in intensity. I called a nurse helpline and they determined that yes she probably was having contractions and she needed to go to the hospital.

We got to the hospital and they hooked her up to the monitors and they initially said they thought she might have a bladder infection. So, they pissed her and sent it off to the lab. Her doctor just happened to be in the hospital at the time so he came by to check on her. They checked her and she is dilating. She is still just at one but with the contractions too that isn’t good. He also found that the baby’s head is in place and ready to pop out.

They gave her a steroid shot to boost the baby’s lung growth just in case they can’t get her labor stopped. She had her regular appointment the next morning and then had to go the hospital that afternoon to get a second steroid shot.

We got home Sunday night and started timing her contractions. They were coming anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes apart. They never got overly intense and never got consistent. We went to the doc the next morning and they put her on total bed rest, which is killing her!

The baby is going nuts moving and flipping and flopping. I told Dj we need to stick a calendar up her hoo ha to show this kid it’s not time yet!

Published in: on January 15, 2009 at 4:16 pm  Comments (4)  

Shootin From The Hip

  • I remembered to take my camera this morning to get the picture of the sign at the bar. I aimed, focused, hit the button. Batteries dead, no picture.
  • Dj got a phone call from the school yesterday. They are saying unless she takes another class she won’t graduate. The counselor hasn’t called me back yet but from what Dj said they are saying because she took a creative writing course years ago she is now required to take another elective course as a follow up. If she doesn’t take it she won’t graduate. It’s basically no big deal since she is home bound but I don’t quite get it and think this is something that should have been caught a long time ago.
  • See that sweet face up there? That’s my niece. She is the sweetest baby you ever wanted to be around, until Dylan shows up. He doesn’t even have to say a word to her, she just sees him and is instantly “on”. The minute he sits down she goes into attack mode. She gets behind him and grabs him around the neck and starts pulling. She might grab his hair and jerk him around and then there are times she gets both hands in his mouth from behind and drags him backwards. The whole time she has this evil little laugh. It’s so cute!
  • We took Precious to be spayed this morning. Because she was a rescue dog we qualified to have it done at a discount. There is a travelling clinic around here that does it. It’s called the Neuter Commuter.
Published in: on January 9, 2009 at 4:11 pm  Comments (2)  


The place we drop Bradley off for work is beside a bar. I pulled in this morning and he pointed out a sign to me on the side of it. I’m going to try and remember to take a picture of it.
At the bottom of the sign it says:

Free Tacos & Women

Published in: on January 8, 2009 at 4:06 pm  Comments (1)  

I’m Probably Over Reacting

But, right now I don’t feel like it. My head is stopped up and I just generally feel like shit so I figure I wouldn’t be this mad any other day.

Due to the nature of Jeff’s job he has been off work since just before Thanksgiving because of the holidays and the weather. I work full time and he has been doing odd jobs, so there is money coming in, things are just tight.

We have a friend that has a job that depends on the weather as well. Until a couple weeks ago, he had been off work for two months. He doesn’t know a lot of people around here so he’s in a different spot then we are. He can’t just go help out here and there to make extra money. So, we have been doing what we can for him. Some friends of ours have pitched in as well and bought him groceries and cigarettes. When he needs to go to the store he calls us, and we pick him up and take him. We also bring him food when we know he is getting low.

Bradley has went to work with him. Bradley isn’t always easy to be around. He can get on your nerves quick so a lot of people give him hell. This morning things were a bit out of our norm. Dj usually takes Bradley to work, then takes Dylan to school and things are right with the world. Today we had my two year old niece who has a cold. It’s cold outside so she can’t be taken along for the ride. No one bothered to let us know if Bradley had to work so we had to take him just in case.

We made a plan of action. While Dylan got ready for school Dj brought Bradley to the friend’s house then came back to get Dylan off to school. Normally Dj is home before I have to be at work so I agreed to stay at home with the baby until she got Dylan dropped off.

They got to the friend’s house early enough to make the plan work and since they don’t start work until 9:00 Dj asked the friend to call the boss and see if they had to work. He said “No I’m not calling him, we can just wait.” Dj explained to him what was going on at the house and that if they weren’t working it was a waste of gas and money to have to drive all the way back up there to get Bradley. He still refused to call and find out.

This man knows how tight things are at our house. He knows how early I have to be at work. He kept Dj there arguing with him about calling the boss until Dylan was late for school and I was almost late for work. Jeff finally came back to the house from the job he was doing to watch the baby so I wouldn’t get in trouble at work.

This just flies all over me. If I didn’t know Dj explained to him that it was affecting the whole house I might not be so mad. But, damn we feed him and do everything we can for him and we ask for a little bit of help and he can’t get passed his need to make Bradley miserable to do that.

I hope for his sake he doesn’t cross paths with me until I feel better.

Published in: on January 7, 2009 at 2:18 pm  Comments (1)  

Cell Phone Secrets

*This is a long post. If you can’t stomach to read the whole way through please at least scroll to the side note because I need some help.*

I got pissed off Saturday at my cell phone company. So pissed that I came very close to cancelling my contract. I’ve been with this company for many, many years and they pushed me to my breaking point Saturday. (It’s not the company that I work for.)

I renewed my daughter’s contract and got her a cool new phone for Christmas. Three days after she got her phone it started messing up. Not too bad, but when we were at the store talking to them about my phone she asked about it. One of the company reps was at the store and he just told the store to swap it out. Didn’t ask me, he just did it.

I had to go back to the store Saturday to pick up my phone. We were just going to exchange Dj’s phone because this one is worse then the first one. That’s two piece of shit phones in three weeks. The bitch behind the counter said absolutely not because we have already exchanged the phone once. I told her I didn’t ask for the first exchange and I won’t be saddled with a phone that my daughter in an emergency will have to take the battery out of her phone and restart it, then hope she gets the call made before it freezes again.

Her response? Well, we can send it off and see if there is a fix for it. There are no “known problems” with this phone so there won’t be a fix for it. If I let her send the phone off, then when it gets back and still doesn’t work, I am out of my 30 day return time and I am stuck with it. That ain’t gonna happen!

I called in to the company and the lady told me that I am well within my 30 days and I can return the phone and reverse my upgrade and we can ride out the contract with our old phone. I went back and stood in line at the store. The lady gets on the phone again and then turns to me and says “You only have 15 days to reverse your upgrade. The only thing we can do is send that one off.” I fucking blew a gasket because I know better! I just turned and ask her “So, the only way to get out from under this piece of shit phone is to cancel my contract?” She just looked at me. I turned to the other’s in line and told them, “if you want quality service come to {my company} we will do you right every time!”

I called the company back again. First I apologized for my tone of voice because my frustration level was high, then I told them my story. The lady that I talked to was wonderful. She told me that she fully agrees with me and that if I wanted they would call the store and make them switch my phone. I told her the last thing the lady at that store needed was for me to show back up still mad and asked if we could do it by mail. Dj’s new phone will be here tomorrow. Don’t ever tell me I can’t do something.

So, I decided I would let you in on a few secrets you may or may not know about some phone companies.

  1. Most companies understand how powerful word of mouth is. They will do just about anything to keep your business if you talk to them right.
  2. Most companies have independent retailers and company owned stores. If you call in and you get told to go to a store and you will get something free, go to a company store. Independent retailers are held under separate rules and most things are not free. Now, if an independent store sells you something like a sim card for your phone, you can call the parent company, tell them how much you paid for it and they will usually credit your bill with that amount. Under some circumstances this will also work with chargers.
  3. If you can not get to a company store then go to your independent store and nicely tell them your problem. There are some things that they can get away with that company stores can’t and a lot of times they are willing to work with you. I work for an independent store, if you come in here screaming at me and demanding something, I will always refer you to our closest company store; 87 miles away. If you speak to me like I am human, I will do everything I can to fix your problem. Sometimes that even includes giving you something for free.
  4. I’m not sure how many companies do this but I do know that more then just the one I work for does. Ask your provider if you get a discount because of where you work. Our company will give you anywhere from 5% to 20% discount on your service just because of the job you hold or retired from. That include a lot of fast food places and big corporations, city, state and federal employees too.
  5. You have 30 days to undo anything you have done. If you don’t like your new phone, you can exchange it. If you signed a new contract to get that new phone, you can reverse it.
  6. If you have a retired plan and it’s a good deal and you don’t want to lose it, don’t let them tell you that you have to change it. You don’t. You can keep it until the end of time.
  7. If you aren’t happy with how one operator handled your problem, thank them for their help and hang up. Call back and get a new operator. Tell the new one you just called and wasn’t sure if your problem was resolved after you thought about it. Everything gets put in your account notes, even your attitude. If you are overly hostile the next operator will treat you as such. Every one knows it is frustrating dealing with this stuff, so a simple acknowledgement that you know it isn’t that person’s fault goes a long way.

I think I should probably wrap this up now before it turns into a novel. I also think I have hit a lot of the high points for the most part. If you have any questions I will do my best to answer them.

*Side Note*

I am putting together a scrap book of sorts for Dj. It’s called Baby 101 Advice for a new mom. I am asking that every one throw in some piece of advice so I can fill this book up. It doesn’t matter if you have kids or not because every one has been around a kid and makes observations. Hell, we’ve all had parents in one form or another so we can give advice about how we wish our parents were. It can be funny or serious or a mix of both.

Published in: on January 5, 2009 at 3:53 pm  Comments (3)